Monday, January 22, 2007

Mr Fixit

I've prided myself for quite a while now in my ability to fix things. It started when I was young. I wanted to know how things worked and how to make them work if they didn't. At this point in my life I can fix just about anything. Cars. toasters, vcr's, and more. But there's one thing I can't fix that I would like to be able to fix more than anything else. That one thing would be Skittles. I just don't have the tools or knowledge to do this. I've tried. Sometimes, I just don't know what to do. I'm not perfect. No one is. I make mistakes too. So, I'll just keep trying and see what happens. Maybe someday it will come true. If not, I'll just keep on loving her for who she is. I know there's a beautiful woman underneath somewhere. Maybe like any job, I get lax at times. Let my guard down and don't do the right things. But she's worth it, I know she is. Till next time BYE!!

24 comments:

masgblog said...

just let her know that you're there for her....I know that you do that anyway, but she's not in a good place right now....you're her rock.

Anonymous said...

Skittles? A woman?

Try forgetting the toasters, cars, vcrs and all that other shit you're paying attention to and pay attention to her!

Smatter with you guys. How about being attentive to HER! How about understanding that she's a woman and different from you. And what the fuck makes you think she needs to be fixed. YOU NEED TO BE FIXED.

Let her have the first orgasm. Does she ever get any at all?

Go fix your self, stop being an adolescent. Be a man. And stop spilling your vaccuous, vapid guts here for all the world to see.

Learn how to relate to a woman--DOPE!

Tisha said...

Keep your chin up, my friend. : )
You're a great man and she realizes that and I know she appreciates that.

Crunchy Carpets said...

Anon....WANK.
Nuf said.

Mike you are doing your best in a difficult situation.

And you are also struggling with the big male thing..FIXING THINGS!

You can't fix her. You can only be there for her.

She is working on the fix.

And listen.....you can't be there or support her at the cost of your own sanity or mental health.

If you are upset or frustrated or angry with her, tell her!

I think that is better than holding everything back and in!

I know I am talking out of my ass here...but both you guys are hurting and you need some tlc to my man.

katherine. said...

Anonymous...not only do you have no clue what you're talking about...you are too much of a chicken shit to admit who you are.

Mike - you're in our prayers as well... keep loving her...and let her keep loving you...

Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said...

yeah mike, what crunch said. i don't know how to say those things and am afraid to make things worse so i have been shutting up. sigh.... that's the wrong thing to do i know, i just don't know what is right. bee

Skittles said...

Anon: You can kiss my ASS! Mike is more of a man than you will ever DREAM of being.

Mike said...

Don't you just love people that comment anonymously? They aren't even enough of a man or woman to leave their names.

crpitt said...

I Agree anon is a full on WANKER!!!!!!!!!!!
Mike i hope you realise that your in everybodies thoughts also.

Claire

Pepper said...

I am a fan of anonymous. I found comments like anonymous funny. I am always amazed by people's stupidity and ignorance. I find it funny that people are more brazen in their stupidity when they won't sign their names.

Don't let it bother you. Laugh at it because it is funny. You and Barb have a wonderful relationship. As much as she depends on you what is wonderful is how much you depend on her. You two have a relationship that I envy.

Gene Bach said...

Everybody's a monster from behind a keyboard when no-one knows who they are. LOL!

Hey Mike, it's your turn to write on the Tuckersville project.

Gabbatha said...

I think that's a big temptation to all of us when we get married, trying to change our spouse.

Rose said...

What is with the anonymous coward? I have no time for anonymous coward. The fact that they must hide their opinion behind anonymity doesn’t say much for their character. That is just my opinion.

You cannot help her, until she helps herself. Depressed people can help themselves, but they need to understand depression and know what it takes to cope with it.

Rach Los Angeles Photographer said...

I think she is who she is and you can't fix her even if she's been broken....just listen and be there for her which I'm sure you're doing.

You are a good person.

Heather in Beautiful British Columbia said...

Oh, I wish I was a toaster...

You are a good guy Mike! Hang in there :)

Jeni said...

Mike, there is nothing YOU personally can do to FIX Barb - that is something only SHE can do. Remember a slogan used by AA and Al-Anon - The only person we can change is ourselves - and that is very true, especially with an illness such as Barb's. And, you know how hard she is working on the changes necessary, how far she's come in her endeavor too. Just be patient, just be there. Things will come about but only in Barb's time, not yours or anyone else's.

~*SilverNeurotic*~ said...

I think you do know how to fix Skittles, but unlike most material things that just need a few adjustments to work properly, it's much more complex and takes a lot of time, and patience and committment to fix. And until it happens, you just have to keep trying, every single day. Even something as small as a hug, or seriously listening to something, no matter how minor it may seem to you...you are working towards fixing your loving wife. I really hope that you continue, it seems that you've already made a lot of headway already. Step back and observe, perhaps you are so close that those changes are apparent right now.

JohnH985 said...

There's not much more I can say that all these good people have said, Mike. Ignore anyone that doesn't have the courage of his convictions to post his name...he came on here and doesn't even know what the situation is that he's commenting on...not worth worrying about. You are doing the best you can and that's all anyone can ask of anyone. Hang in there.

Sarge Charlie said...

Good luck mike and barb

Mikala said...

Mike, I happen to think you're super sweet to even think the things you think about Skits. I admire that and I am jealous. I just don't know if many people have someone that is so thoughtful regarding them. I know, sometimes, we all get complacent and don't realize it. You're right, we all make mistakes, but just knowing that you think these things may help Skits more than you know. Keep it up!

sarala said...

Mike this was a very sweet post. Your patience is what helps "fix" Skittles, not a hammer or screwdriver.
Best.

Skittles said...

You've been TAGGED with "The 25 Question Meme!"

Reza said...

Dear Friends,

A group of researchers at University of Nevada, Las Vegas, are investigating effects of Weblogs on “Social Interactions” and “Trust”. Therefore, they have designed an online survey. By participating in this survey you will help researches in “Management Information Systems” and “Sociology”. You must be at least 18 years old to participate in this survey. It will take 5 to 12 minutes of your valuable time.

Your participation is greatly appreciated. You’ll find the survey at the following link. http://www.questionpro.com/akira/TakeSurvey?id=616499

jolie-jordan said...

Good luck Mike & Barb. Life is hard and the best thing you two seem to have going for you is the love and devotion that you seem to share. Most mental illnesses are caused by chemical imbalances and cannot not readily be fixed and certainly not with talk. Hopefully someday there will be enough research to find a way to balance things out. Try not to lose yourself in the midst of the struggle. Support & love really is the best one can give. Don't let the anon idiot bug you. Obviously someone with a hard-on for men in general.
Sending good wishes to both you & Barb.
xxxJolie

I love the way the new train turned out. (smile)